After eight long years of rock-busting in conventional counseling practices, Melanie Wells founded The LifeWorks Group in 1999 to offer clients a fresh, innovative approach to the everyday problems of life. Since that inauspicious beginning (we had two pleather chairs, a broken copier and about $7 in the bank) LifeWorks has trained hundreds of interns and helped tens of thousands... Read More
If only love and compatibility were one and the same thing! Some of the toughest breakups occur when two people love each other unambiguously; but simply cannot make it work.
Part of the difficulty is that we’re taught—merci beaucoup, Hollywood! —to believe that love should always work.
But, in reality: Love doesn’t always overcome. Not when your partner is on a crash course for self-destruction. Not when your relationship trains a spotlight onto the “worst you”. And, not when a source of deep hurt advances into incurable bitterness.
There are also times when a couple parts with very little—if any—love left. That’s also a challenge: watching your former best friend transform into a wellspring of seething hatred—especially, when children are concerned. (If love can make many a rational person stoop to hacking emails, imagine what hurt can do!)
There are also many shades of grief that settle in between.
Regardless of how your grief presents—anger, fear, shame, sadness, loneliness, guilt, or relief—divorce adjustment tends to follow three distinct phases of healing: Initial Devastation; Gradual Recovery; and Ultimate Renewal.
Breaking up is hard to do. Every individual will experience these stages at his or her own rate. But, at Lifeologie, it’s our mission to ensure that you don’t have to overcome loss or achieve self-discovery on your own. Our team of family counseling and divorce therapy experts is here to help you find that elusive door to recovery and realize the courage to walk through it!