men’s issues – we know what you’re up against and we can help!
Perhaps Ayn Rand said it best, “The savage’s whole existence is public, ruled by the laws of his tribe. Civilization is the process of setting man free from men.” What exactly is a man to do with the problems he faces in this complex world? Is he to ask for help? Is he to welcome and receive assistance? Often a man is praised when he completes a task within his natural skill-set, yet condemned when there is no switch to turn it off.
Barbara Streisand made another good point, “Why does a woman work ten years to change a man, then complain he’s not the man she married?” With divorce rates steadily rising, more than a decade of war behind us, and a high unemployment rate… men, and the concept of manhood is under attack. Most of this battle rages within. Suicide rates among men are at an all time high, especially for men who are active duty military, recently divorced, and those who are unemployed. It would seem that all the patterns are evident and a great need is exposed.
So why then is the field of male mental health lagging behind in the care that is provided? The stigma associated with men seeking mental health care cannot be overstated. If women, at core, need safety and security, it is no wonder that a man will do what it takes to be able to provide that safety, or at least appear to.
Men suffer from depression, anxiety, and anger issues leaving them prone to acting out with chemical abuse and aggression. Just like women, children, and seasoned citizens… men need to be seen as a valuable resource and cared for so they may endure.
Today more than ever we see men involved in complex custody cases, fighting for their rights as fathers. Many organizations have sprung up to help, such as Fathers for Equal Rights, among others. The trend is shifting to fathers who will not roll over and accept the status quo when it comes to their children and their rights. One would hope that this becomes contagious. A day will come when, in great numbers, men will fight for their mental health, physical health, and the safety of all around them. Ingrained in boys is the need to play and explore, to suffer consequences, and to test their limits. Too often now when we witness boys being boys, they are labeled as broken.
An amazing article was written recently and served as an important chronicle of the problems that males face. The article is The Myth about Boys by David Von Drehle, and was featured in Time Magazine. Von Drehle sees it as a comprehensive problem, “Our boys have become cannon fodder in the unresolved culture wars waged by their parents and grandparents.” Here at Lifeworks we are committed to the comprehensive care that men need, and the unique fashion in which they need it. We are reaching out to you, men. Let us walk alongside you as you become the man you want to be, and live the life that you were carved out to live.
If you are struggling with mens issues, we recommend the following LifeWorkers:
Chris Jones - Dallas and Fort Worth offices
Harry Cates - Dallas and Fort Worth offices
Ly Tran- Dallas office
Jennifer Landon- Park Cities office
Abbie Chesney- Dallas office
Jeremy Lanning- Dallas and Fort Worth offices
Matthew Hoag- Park Cities office