Pre-Marital Counseling & Therapy
Is Pre-Marital Counseling Right For Us?
Many couples who contemplate marriage choose pre-marital counseling to ensure that they get off on the right foot. Marriage is tough enough without help. Why not get a professional’s input right from the beginning?
Even the healthiest couples will argue sometimes. It’s normal to get swept away by the excitement of the wedding day and unintentionally allow important issues to slip through the cracks.
Pre-marital counseling is tool that helps couples avoid unpleasant surprises and helps to relieve the tension of existing issues. The overarching goal of pre-marital counseling isn’t about avoiding disagreements. It’s about enhancing the quality of your relationship and ensuring lasting marital satisfaction.
Although you and your counselor will explore a wide range of marital topics, 8 of the “relationship biggies” include
8 Essential Topics for Pre-Marital Counseling
- Cohabitation: If you already live together, you know how hard the adaption period is. Commonly, people argue about household chores and socks on the floor, differing bedtimes, and matters of taste (like that hideous couch from Craigslist). Pre-martial counseling can help you to articulate your expectations for cohabitation, so that living with partner you love is a positive start to a long and loving relationship.
- Career Ambitions: New careers often require significant commitments: specialized schooling, student loans, cross country relocations, and mutual sacrifice. Many marital disagreements can be sidestepped by discussing long-term career goals, implementation of those goals, and what sacrifices might be required to balance the needs of the marriage with individual career goals?
- Finances: How comfortable are you with spending? And, what’s your stance on joint banking accounts, or your plan of attack to minimize your debts? Unfortunately, existing is expensive—from student loans and costly mortgages to car payments, credit card debt, and college funds or retirement savings. Pre-marital counseling can help couples agree on how the bills will be divided, reach consensus on spending allowances, and long term financial planning —all before walking down the aisle!
- Sex & Fidelity: Sex is often steamiest when the relationship is new. When career obligations and children are tossed into the mix, intimacy often suffers. Pre-martial counseling can prepare couples for these eventualities. Pre-marital counseling addresses issues such as performance anxiety, sexual arousal disorders, orgasmic dysfunction, painful penetration, and premature or delayed ejaculation; and encourage an honest discussion of what constitutes infidelity
- Kids & Parenting: One of the most complex issues for couples considering marriage is children: Are we going to have them and what kind of parents will we be? Now’s the time to be brutally honest. How will we raise our kids? The time to discuss discipline, schools and extended family issues is now. We can help with that.
- Spirituality & Core Beliefs: If your spiritual beliefs differ what will your family spiritual and moral practices look like? What is negotiable and what is not?
- Conflict: Conflict is unavoidable. But learning and practicing healthy communication strategies can help you understand your partner’s views and avert lasting resentments.
- Extended Family: Forming relationships with in-laws can be complicated. Develop effective strategies for interacting your new family members.
How Can Pre-Martial Therapy & Counseling Help Me?
Pre-martial counseling can improve the quality of your marriage by assisting you to
- Vocalize your expectations for the marriage (on the division of bills and household chores, cohabitation habits, financial planning and spending, sexpectations and fidelity requirements, child-rearing practices, and career/home-life balance)
- Develop strategies for anticipating and resolving conflicts effectively
- Deepen your sexual and emotional connection
- Discover common ground on contradictory core values and spiritual views
- Resolve intimacy or abandonment issues and recuperate from childhood or pre-relationship incidences of abuse and trauma
Meet our counselors who specialize in this issue
- Tristyn “Noell” LusterLPC Intern, supervised by Chris Jones, LPC-SDallas & Fort WorthFees: $95 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: Abandonment Issues, Adulting, Aging Issues, Anxiety Disorders, Caring for Aging Parents, Codependency Issues, Couples Counseling, Depression, Divorce & Breakups, Failure to Launch, Geriatric Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Newlyweds, Pre-Engagement, Pre-Marital, Young Adults in Transition
- Mary MillerLMFTDallas & Fort Worth$125 per 50 minute sessionSpecialties: Business Partner Counseling, Couples Counseling, Female Sexuality, Infidelity, LGBTQ & Gender Issues, LGBTQ Couples, Male Sexuality, Marriage & Gender, Marriage Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Newlyweds, Parenting, Pre-Marital, Sex Therapy, Sexual Identity, Women's Issues
- Cori HillLPC-Intern, NCC
Supervised by Melanie Wells, LPC-SDallas & Park Cities$100 per 50 minute session (ask about reduced rates)Specialties: Abandonment Issues, Adulting, Biracial Couples, Blended Families, Business Partner Counseling, Codependency Issues, Couples Counseling, Cross-Cultural Relationships, Depression, Divorce & Breakups, Failure to Launch, Family Issues, Female Sexuality, Grief & Loss, Infidelity, Interfaith Relationships, Last-Ditch Marital, LGBTQ & Gender Issues, LGBTQ Couples, Male Sexuality, Marriage Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Men's Issues, Multi-Cultural Issues, Newlyweds, Pre-Engagement, Pre-Marital, Quarter-Life Issues, Relationship Issues, Sex & Sexuality, Sex Therapy, Social Anxiety, Stress Management, Tweens & Teens, Women's Issues, Young Adults, Young Adults in Transition
- Katie HermesLPC Intern, LCDC-Intern Supervised by
Melanie Wells, LPC-S, LMFT-SDallas & Fort WorthFees: $115 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: Adulting, Codependency Issues, Couples Counseling, Divorce & Adjustment, Failure to Launch, Female Sexuality, Infidelity, Last-Ditch Marital, Newlyweds, Pre-Engagement, Pre-Marital, Women's Issues, Young Adults in Transition
- Jessica LatchawLPC Intern, LCDC Intern Supervised by
Chris Jones, LPC-SFort Worth Office$90 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: Addiction & Substance Abuse, Body Image, Codependency Issues, Couples Counseling, Cutting, Eating Disorders, Grief & Loss, LGBTQ & Gender Issues, LGBTQ Couples, New Parents, Pre-Marital, Pregnancy Issues, Self Harm, Young Adults in Transition
- Mark LuffLPC-Intern, Supervised by Von Eaglin, LPC-SDallas OfficeFees: $105 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: Addiction & Substance Abuse, Adolescents, Adult Children of Alcoholics, Anxiety Disorders, Christian Counseling, Couples Counseling, Drug and Alcohol Abuse, Infidelity, Interfaith Relationships, Last-Ditch Marital, LGBTQ Couples, Male Sexuality, Marriage Counseling, Men's Issues, New Parents, Newlyweds, Pre-Engagement, Pre-Marital, Relationship Issues, Sexual Identity