Grief & Loss Counseling & Therapy
What Is “complicated” Grief?
Grief is the term that describes our reaction to loss—and for any two people, that reaction will differ. We all grieve differently. Some turn grief inward or feel uncomfortable sharing our emotions openly, choosing to isolate and handle it all alone.
Others feel conflicting emotions about loss, such as relief as a loved one is released from prolonged suffering. This relief is often accompanied by guilt, further complicating a difficult situation.
Others experience an intractable grief that outlives the customary or “normal” mourning period.
The concept of negative space in art is analogous to persistent grief. Negative space denotes the background or empty space that bounds the focal point, or subject, of a painting or a photograph. For people with intractable—or “complicated” grief—all rooms that they inhabit become blurred by negative space, such that the absence of a particular person or circumstance becomes the focus… and they struggle to shake their feelings of profound and pervasive emptiness.
Is Death The Only Event That Qualifies As A “Grieve-Able” Loss?
No. And, the answer may be broader than you’d initially imagine. Grieve-able losses may include:
- The Death of a Loved One – the loss of a parent, spouse, child, relative, or friend; even the death of someone whom you knew only peripherally can unsettle you to your core–especially when the person passes suddenly, before their time, or you admired many of their best qualities
- The Death of a Pet – animals become our loved ones, and we cherish their moody quirks and unconditional love… even when our pets are absolutely rotten and shred and scatter trash all over the kitchen floor, we’d take them back at their worst to guarantee their presence in our lives again
- Loss of a Relationship – we grieve the loss of our friendships, our breakups and divorces—there’s definitely a reason that it’s called heartache!—or even a lover’s act of infidelity, which because laced with an added layer of emotional betrayal, makes coping uniquely difficult
- Miscarriage & Birth – the connection that forms between a pregnant mother, expecting partner, and unborn child is incredibly intimate and when circumstance severs that bond prematurely, it can be devastating—for both parents.
- Loss of a Job – losing a job can make you feel inadequate, or even remorseful if you feel as though you did something… not quite right… to warrant your employer’s decision. With the passage of time, these emotions of worthlessness and self-blame can transmute into “complicated” grief
- Loss of a Dream – From “Death of a Salesman” to “A Raisin in the Sun”, there’s a reason why so many great works of literature detail the death of a dream; when you lose that thing that you’ve worked so hard for or have always dreamed about achieving, it can be difficult to understand your place in life, or where to head next
- Loss of Health or Safety: People with chronic illnesses, sudden paralysis, or traumatic brain injury grieve the loss of all that they could do prior to their injury or illness. Similarly, people who have lived through a profound trauma mourn the loss of what their life was like before the event, when anxiety about personal safety was less pressing and intrusive
- Moving: Moving is a unique category of loss that combines many of the aforementioned topics, from loss of relationships (through physical distance) to loss of a job (having to start your career over somewhere new), to loss of contact with the everyday places that you came to love… even if you didn’t notice it at the time! It’s as they say: Absence [can, and may times, it does] make the heart grow fonder.
What Are The Signs & Symptoms Of Grief & Loss?
The physical and psychological indicators of grief will vary from person to person, but may include:
- Shock, disbelief, or numbness: feeling emotionally detached as you adapt to the knowledge that a loved one has passed or that your circumstances have been altered
- Sadness: the predominant emotion associated with grief, and when not properly addressed, can evolve into a lengthier bout of depression
- Anger, Guilt, or Blame: feeling angry or holding yourself, the deceased, or the people who were involved in your changing circumstance responsible for the loss; or finding yourself perpetually irritable and snapping at random people (grocery store clerks, librarians, etc.) with little provocation
- Yearning: reminiscing and ruminating about the time before your love one passed or the event of loss happened
- Futility: struggling to understand the purpose of the tragedy or of life in general
- Relief: feeling relieved after the inevitable occurs and you’re no longer hanging in the balance… waiting for the other shoe to drop
- Physical symptoms: including gastrointestinal upset, weight loss or weight gain, sleep disturbances (including excessive fatigue or difficulty falling and staying asleep)
- Behavioral symptoms: including absentminded behavior, avoiding reminders of the loss, social withdrawal, or engaging in risky behaviors (such as substance use or sexual promiscuity) to dull unpleasant sensations
How Can Counseling & Therapy For Grief & Loss Help Me?
Counseling & Therapy for grief management can help improve recovery outcomes for all stages of loss—from initial moments of shock, anger, and sadness to more complicated cases of bereavement that seem to linger endlessly. Your therapist will help you to:
- Identify and confront complicated emotions or trauma: If you’re a silent griever, you may not know how you feel; or regardless of your grieving style, you may have complicated emotions regarding your loss (for example, you may feel relieved (and simultaneously guilty) when a family member with a drug addiction overdoses because you no longer have to be eaten alive with worry about their well-being and safety); or perhaps the loss itself was tinged with trauma (maybe you were sexually assaulted or lost a friend in a car accident in which you were both involved). Your therapist will help you to confront these emotions as you work together to find avenues for healing and personal growth.
- Improve your self-care: Grief has a tendency to make people in its clutches forget to take care of themselves. As difficult as it is, your therapist will help you to establish a routine that’s a blend of maintaining your responsibilities, self-relaxation, and fun. Although it may feel like going through the motions at first, in time, taking care of yourself will become second nature
- Connect to group or family therapy services that are appropriate for your situation, (for example: family counseling to process grief from the loss of a loved one or group therapy as a supplement treatment for survivors of trauma)
- Recruit your spiritual beliefs (as applicable) to assist with coping: When a senseless tragedy occurs, some people derive comfort in placing their problems into the guiding hands of a higher power; for the non-religious, alternative therapy techniques such as mindfulness, meditation, or psychotherapeutic yoga can help you achieve a similar self-soothing effect
Meet our counselors who specialize in this issue
- Deanne MooreLPC, LMFTDallas Office$185 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: Adoption & Foster Care, Blended Families, Business Partner Counseling, Christian Counseling, Codependency Issues, Couples Counseling, Divorce & Breakups, Family Issues, Infidelity, Last-Ditch Marital, Marriage Counseling, Parental Alienation, Women's Issues
- Courtney CallawayLPCDallas & Fort WorthFees:
Therapy: $130 per session
Yoga: $70 per hour session
$90 per 1.5 hour sessionSpecialties: ADHD, Adolescents, Adulting, Anxiety Disorders, Bullying, Child Counseling, Child or Play Therapy, Cutting, Depression, EMDR, Grief & Loss, Self Harm, Stress Management, Suicidal Thoughts, Trauma & Abuse Recovery, Tweens & Teens, Yoga Therapy
- Tristyn “Noell” LusterLPC Intern, supervised by Chris Jones, LPC-SDallas & Fort WorthFees: $95 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: Abandonment Issues, Adulting, Aging Issues, Anxiety Disorders, Caring for Aging Parents, Codependency Issues, Couples Counseling, Depression, Divorce & Breakups, Failure to Launch, Geriatric Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Newlyweds, Pre-Engagement, Pre-Marital, Young Adults in Transition
- Allison WilliamsLPC-Intern, LCDC-I, NCC,
Supervised by Melanie
Wells, LPC-S, LMFT-SDallas office$115 per 50 minute sessionSpecialties: Adult Children of Divorce, Adulting, Christian Counseling, Codependency Issues, Depression, Quarter-Life Issues, Relationship Issues, Women's Issues, Young Adults in Transition
- Lexie MillerLPC Intern, LCDC Intern
Chris Jones, LPC-SDallas OfficeFees: $115 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: Complex Trauma Recovery, Cutting, Depression, EMDR, Grief & Loss, Self Harm, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Suicidal Thoughts, Trauma & Abuse Recovery, Women's Issues, Young Adults in Transition
- Cortney EdwardsLPC Intern Supervised by
Chris Jones, LPC-SFort Worth Office$90 per 50 minute sessionSpecialties: Addiction & Substance Abuse, Adolescents, Ayurveda & Lifestyle, Bipolar Disorder, Child Counseling, Child or Play Therapy, Childhood Abuse Recovery, Codependency Issues, Depression, Divorce & Breakups, Failure to Launch, Family Issues, Men's Issues, Mindfulness Training, Mood Disorders, New Parents, Postpartum Depression, Pregnancy Issues, Sexual Identity, Tweens & Teens, Yoga Therapy
- Jessica LatchawLPC Intern, LCDC Intern Supervised by
Chris Jones, LPC-SFort Worth Office$90 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: Addiction & Substance Abuse, Body Image, Codependency Issues, Couples Counseling, Cutting, Eating Disorders, Grief & Loss, LGBTQ & Gender Issues, LGBTQ Couples, New Parents, Pre-Marital, Pregnancy Issues, Self Harm, Young Adults in Transition
- Chelsey CharbeneauC-IAYT, E-RYT 500, YACEPDallas OfficeFees: $135 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: Anxiety Disorders, Borderline Personality, Childhood Abuse Recovery, Dealing with Chronic Illness, Depression, Emotional Abuse Recovery, Families & Mental Illness, Geriatric Counseling, Mindfulness Training, Panic Attacks, Physical Abuse Recovery, PTSD Recovery, Social Anxiety, Stress Management, Virtual Counseling Sessions, Yoga Therapy
- Kim SalisburyE-RYT500 Yoga Alliance, Yoga Therapist with IAYTDallas OfficeFees: $100 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: Addiction & Substance Abuse, Anxiety Disorders, Dealing with Chronic Illness, Dealing with OCD, Depression, Eating Disorders, Exercise Addiction, Extreme Dieting, Geriatric Counseling, Insomnia, Mindfulness Training, Panic Attacks, PTSD Recovery, Stress Management, Virtual Counseling Sessions, Yoga Therapy
- Katy BranchflowerMasters Level InternDallas Office$55 per 50-minute sessionSpecialties: Abuse Recovery, Childhood Abuse Recovery, Couples Counseling, Grief & Loss, Life Changing Events, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues, Stress Management, Trauma & Abuse Recovery, Women's Issues, Young Adults in Transition
- Jenny WangLPC, LPC-SupervisorFriscoFees: $150 for a 50 minute sessionSpecialties: Anxiety Disorders, Christian Counseling, Christian Marriage Counseling, Couples Counseling, Dealing with OCD, Death & Dying, Depression, Divorce & Adjustment, Divorce & Breakups, Emotional Abuse Recovery, Family Issues, Grief & Loss, Infidelity, Kids, Teens & Tweens, Life Changing Events, Marriage Counseling, Parenting, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Trauma & Abuse Recovery, Tweens & Teens
- Annalise HarnessPracticum Student Supervised by Ly Tran, LPC-SPlano/Richardson OfficeFees: $50 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: ADHD, Adolescents, Adulting, Child Counseling, Child or Play Therapy, Couples Counseling, Dealing with Chronic Illness, Death & Dying, Divorce & Breakups, Grief & Loss, Kids, Teens & Tweens, Marriage Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationship Issues, Tweens & Teens, Young Adults, Young Adults in Transition
- Kayla WhiteLPC-Intern Supervised
by Jenny Wang, LPC-SFriscoFees: $105 for a 50 min sessionSpecialties: ADHD, Adolescents, Bullying, Child Counseling, Child or Play Therapy, Cutting, Depression, Divorce & Breakups, Grief & Loss, Kids, Teens & Tweens, LGBTQ & Gender Issues, Major Depression, Mood Disorders, Parenting, Self Harm, Suicidal Thoughts, Young Adults
- Calvin BurnsLPC Intern, supervised by Ly Tran, LPC-SFrisco & Plano/RichardsonFees: $105 per 50 min sessionSpecialties: Addiction & Substance Abuse, Anxiety Disorders, Christian Counseling, Christian Marriage Counseling, Couples Counseling, Dealing with OCD, Depression, Divorce & Breakups, Major Depression, Marriage Counseling, Newlyweds, Relationship Issues, Suicidal Thoughts, suicide prevention
- Dieula PrevilonLPC & Life CoachFrisco & Plano/RichardsonFees: $130 for a 50 min sessionSpecialties: Abuse Recovery, ADHD, Adolescents, Anxiety Disorders, Biracial Couples, Blended Families, Childhood Abuse Recovery, Christian Counseling, Christian Marriage Counseling, Couples Counseling, Depression, Divorce & Adjustment, Divorce & Breakups, Emotional Abuse Recovery, Grief & Loss, Infidelity, Life Changing Events, Major Depression, Marriage Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Panic Attacks, Parenting, Physical Abuse Recovery, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Social Anxiety, Spousal Abuse Recovedry, Stress Management, Trauma & Abuse Recovery, Tweens & Teens, Veterans & Military, Young Adults, Young Adults in Transition
- Kelly PedersenLPC Supervisor,
Clinical DirectorAustin OfficeFees: $130 for a 50 minute session.Specialties: Christian Counseling, Complex Trauma Recovery, Couples Counseling, Divorce & Breakups, EMDR, Last-Ditch Marital, Pre-Marital, PTSD Recovery