5 Tips For A Stress-Free Start to School

Start off the school year with some positive parenting! Whether your child is returning to a familiar environment or starting fresh at a brand new school, let them know you see them, you hear them, and you believe in their ability to thrive independently. 

Positive Parenting Tips for a Stress-Free Back-to-School Season

The start of a new school year is a fresh chapter for your child—and for you. Whether your child is heading back to a familiar classroom or stepping into a brand-new school, your support can make all the difference. The key? Show them you see them, hear them, and believe in their ability to thrive independently.

positive parenting tips

• Validate their feelings—fear is normal.
  
  
• Remind them discomfort won’t last forever.
  
  
• Share examples of things that were hard at first but became easier (like learning to read or riding a bike).
  
  
• Encourage connection with old friends or making new ones.

5 positive parenting conversation starters

Here are five questions you can ask to help your child feel confident, connected, and ready for the year ahead.

1. “What’s your favorite memory from the summer?”

Children sometimes get so focused on the uncertainty of the future that they forget the joy of the recent past. Help them recall moments that made them feel special:

• A silly late-night movie marathon
  
  
• Staying up to watch the moon and stars
  
  
• Beating an older sibling at a game
  
  
• One-on-one time with a beloved relative

2. “Which friend are you most excited to see?”

Ask this without judgment, then follow up with “Why?” or “Tell me more!” Your child’s relationships—quirks and all—are part of their growing independence.

While you may intervene if a friendship is unsafe or harmful, most of the time, kids benefit from navigating their own social world. Resist the urge to micromanage playdates or dictate who their “best” friends should be.

3. “Are you worried about anything at school this year?”

Many school-aged children share these common fears:

• Fear of failure
  
  
• Fear of not fitting in
  
  
• Fear of leaving home
  
  
• Fear of not keeping up academically
  
  
• Fear of the future

Back-to-school jitters usually fade after a few weeks of routine. But if your child’s anxiety causes frequent stomachaches, headaches, tantrums, or avoidance, it’s time for a reassuring talk.

Related reading: 3 Quick Tips To Stop A Meltdown Before It Starts

4. “Are there any adults at school you can talk to if you’re having a hard day?”

Help your child identify trusted adults:

• A favorite teacher or office staff member
  
  
• The school counselor (schedule a first-week visit)
  
  
• A friendly librarian who can help them discover new hobbies

Knowing where to find support helps kids feel secure—even in unfamiliar environments.

5. “What can I do to help make this school year a success?”

If they’re unsure, think about stress triggers you’ve noticed:

• Morning chaos? Prep lunches, outfits, and backpacks the night before.
  
  
• Anxiety about being late? Build in buffer time and set a “5-minute war
• Boring commute? Let your child pick music or an audiobook.
  
  
• Tough after-school transitions? Give them downtime before homework.
  
  
• Academic struggles? Seek help early—whether it’s peer tutoring or professional learning assessments.

Related reading: Testing for ADHD, ASD, and Learning Differences

positive parenting starts with you

Supporting your child through the back-to-school season is important—but so is supporting yourself. If you’re experiencing parenting stress, worry, or even empty-nest anxiety, give yourself permission to process those feelings and explore your own friendships and growth.

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