It's a question we've all asked before. While some aspects of identity remain relatively constant throughout the lifespan, other parts of identity are constantly changing. For example, an inevitable change is age. As one grows older, the brain structure changes, societal expectations on you change, and one's role in the family changes. It's no wonder that many of us are hit with "quarter/mid-life crises!"
A compassionate therapist can tell you it's OK to not know who you are. In fact, the less you know about the current you, the more there is to explore and learn. To answer the question "Who am I?" try starting with this identity exploration exercise below.
List 5 words or phrases that describe who you are. Write them down. And notice the ways you identified yourself.
Listed below are categories of commonly used identifiers. Did you write anything down that related to your:
How do your 5 words/phrases compare to what you would have answered in the past?
What has remained constant and what has fluctuated the most?
What part of your identity holds the most weight for you?
How would other people identify you and how does that make you feel?
Remember that your identity is not defined by these 5 phrases. Rather, use what you learned from this exercise to build self-awareness and language around how you view yourself.
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