So... this wasn’t the year you pictured.
Maybe you kicked off January with a vision board, big goals, or just a quiet hope that this year would be different. But now it’s mid-year, and instead of progress, you’re feeling stuck, off track, or wondering where the time went. If things haven’t unfolded the way you planned, you're not alone — and it doesn’t mean the rest of your year is a lost cause.
Sometimes the most powerful changes don’t come from a fresh start... they come from a bold pivot. If you’re feeling the pull to reassess, regroup, or reimagine your direction, now might be exactly the right time.
Raise your hand if you’ve experienced not getting off to a good start.
Sometimes things don’t get off to a good start. We all know deep down that it’s not about how you start but how you finish.
It’s time to focus on your pivot. So, think of this moment as the start to your comeback story. You’ll look back in January, maybe as you are sweating on the treadmill, and be super proud you did.
When I talk about pivoting, I mean making changes in your life that would be beneficial to you becoming your best self. The mantra I want you to embrace is that change is possible. That doesn’t mean it will be easy but that transformation is within your reach.
costs of not pivoting
Feeling stuck and hopeless in whatever your life situation is just a symptom affirming that pivoting isn’t easy. Pivoting goes against our hardwired tendency to keep homeostasis or stability within ourselves and our environments. The problem here is that this kind of homeostasis works against you rather than for you. You’re like the proverbial frog in boiling water that doesn’t realize it's slowly being cooked alive. Staying comfortable will cost you.
It can cost you:
Feel free to add in your own costs. My point is that pivoting, or making changes, will be more beneficial to you than staying where you are.
Here are a few principles to help with your midseason pivot on your way to being your best self.
According to Dr. Anna Kaffner Shaffer, “Letting go is a spiritual/psychological process that requires relinquishing our attachment to outcomes, desires, expectations, and accepting what is.” It’s time to become non-attached from how you think this year should have been or will be.
As you have become non-attached from what you planned and expected, take a sigh of relief and enjoy the rewards of self-compassion. Kristin Neff’s research on self-compassion underscores its significance in promoting emotional resilience and reducing self-criticism.
You can change and have control over your attitude/mindset, your diet, your job, your reactions in relationships, how much time you spend on social media, etc. Focus on what applies to you and only you.
This also means no more sulking about times gone by. The past is gone. Let’s accept this and move on. Hey! The rhyming wasn’t intentional but it works. You’re in midseason now. Leave behind what you didn’t get done or aspired to do in August.
Get into the present.
assess your situation
We all have a tendency to look at others and make the interpretation that “they” are doing “better” than us. It’s quite human. But don’t allow the voices of envy and comparison a seat at your table. Here’s why. How others are faring parentally, financially, romantically, professionally, or wherever is none of your business.
An undesired start does not define or limit you. At Lifeologie Counseling Dallas, we specialize in helping you make those life-altering pivots by offering compassionate and practical therapeutic support, whether you’re at the beginning, middle or end of a season. Our therapy team takes an open, curious, nonjudgmental and collaborative approach that will give you the tools, tips and support you need to navigate all the things related to your journey. Book an appointment today with me in Texas, or explore our rapidly growing team of Lifeologie therapists near you to get started.