3 Quick Tips to Simplify Your Life

Feeling the back-to-school squeeze and wondering how to simplify life before stress has you saying something you might regret? You’re not alone. Adults often feel that getting-called-to-the-office dread this time of year. But seasonal stress and expectation management may have you feeling like you're in trouble. When schedules get packed, clutter multiplies, and your mind starts racing, even small daily tasks can feel heavier than they should. The good news is that simplicity does not have to mean a total life overhaul. It can start with a few thoughtful changes that help you feel more grounded, more in control, and a little more like yourself again. Try these 3 quick tips to clear your clutter, your calendar, and your mind so you can create a little more breathing room this season.

Clear Your Clutter

The first step to sorting all your stuff is to break it down into small chores. Choose one area at a time and take stock of what you already have. If you have fifteen minutes, clean off one surface, like sorting junk mail on the kitchen counter. If you have one hour, dump out the contents of one drawer. If you have one day, try one section of a room or closet.

Sort into 4 piles: Keep It, Trash/Recycle It, Donate It and I Don’t Know. Have a bag or box ready for donated items and place it by your door or in your car so you can drop it off at a local thrift shop the next time you pass it along your regular route. Doing so will give you a sense of accomplishment and prevent second-guessing about any sentimental items. If you’re keeping things that need attention, like a torn hem or a missing button, be honest about how much time or money you’re willing to spend to make those repairs, and give yourself 30 days to tend to them so they can be properly stored.

Remember, the I Don’t Know category is a temporary pile - it’s just there to move you through the sorting process and keep you from getting stuck. If you have an oversize pile of items in the I Don’t Know category, take a break, have a snack, then return rested and ready, or enlist a trusted friend to help you make tough decisions about what to keep and what to toss.

Emotions run high when we try to clear our clutter: everything from sweet nostalgia over a fabulous pair of shoes to guilt and shame for overspending to simply feeling burdened by so much stuff. If you are so overwhelmed with objects that you can’t see the first place to start, it may be worth investing in a few hours with a professional organizer who can help you sort through mountains of paperwork and holiday decorations. If you’re feeling completely overwhelmed by everything, consider working with a life coach. They can help you discover what thoughts and behaviors may be preventing you from moving forward and identify clear goals to get you out from under that endless pile of laundry and on the road to better mental health. 

clear your calendar

Before you can delegate, decline, or delay, you may want to Invest in a calendar that you’ll actually use, whether that’s a preloaded app for your phone and desktop like Google Calendar, a multi-user calendar app like Cozi, designed to share among busy families, a color-coded wall calendar that lets everyone see what's coming up, or a desktop planner like these from Emily Ley, New York Times bestselling author of The Simplified Life, Tactical Tools for Intentional Living.  For a personal spin, get inspired with bullet journal ideas on Pinterest or Instagram, but remember, the goal here is practical simplicity, not perfection. You want easy tools that let you look ahead and decide how you want to prioritize your time, not another art project that keeps you up hours after midnight when you’re already finishing work emails and frosting individual werewolf face cupcakes for that fourth-grade Halloween party. 

clear your conscious mind

It’s hard to think about clearing your mind when intrusive thoughts and an endless to-do list are taking up all the space in your brain. We are in a world of distracted drivers, doomscrollers, and over-dedicated caregivers. 

If you have a dedicated hour or room in your home to spread out to meditate, you’re lucky – and rare. Many people schedule a few minutes to meditate first thing in the morning or right before bed in a semi-quiet corner. If you feel awkward or silly starting that way, Lifeologie Counseling Ada therapist Melissa Champion, LMSW, suggests starting small. "Attach a few minutes of mindfulness practice (being fully engaged and present) to something you already do, like brushing your teeth or waiting for tea or coffee to brew."

The important thing is to try to be present in the actual moment, and allow worries and thoughts to come and go as you focus on feelings of clarity and relaxation. You can also make time to doodle, go for a walk, play an instrument, or sing a song. The purpose is to give yourself – and your brain – a change of focus and a break from negative thoughts.

There’s no right or wrong way to build a mindful meditation practice, just a commitment to carve out that time for yourself as if opening a small gift. Look forward to it, make space for it, and give yourself the time to treat yourself as kindly as you very likely are treating everyone around you. 

Do you feel stuck this season? Lifeologie Counseling can help you come up with creative solutions to life’s problems. For one-on-one help learning how to clear your mind, try a yoga or meditation class in your community. If you're looking for more tailored guidance, connect here with one of our Lifeologie counselors who specialize in mindfulness and supportive, evidence-based care.