Considering Couples Therapy?

Most couples remember their first date jitters that turned into countless days and nights of hanging out. They also can recall the day when they got engaged, and nervously vowed, “For better or for worse, for richer or for poorer” in front of loved ones on their wedding day. But do couples remember the first day they started feeling like their marriage was mostly "for worse"?

Many couples sit in front of their therapists smiling as they recollect memories when times were ‘better’. Mostly, underneath those smiles may lie pain, disappointment, betrayal, and even loneliness. How did we get here? Where is my partner? or Can I even do this anymore? are questions that ruminate throughout the day. The possible thoughts of separation or divorce could even loom within the madness.

After suffering through the hurt, confusion, silence, and missed opportunities for reconnection, one partner finally considers calling in for couple’s therapy and it all becomes surreal. Are we really going to do this? Are our problems really that bad? Do I really want someone to know about our problems? What if my partner does not want to come with me? This inner dialogue is normal to have and is more common than you may think.

It's important when seeking professional help from a counselor to find someone you feel connected with and to know this process will most likely be a journey. What is also important once you decide that couple’s therapy is your next option, is taking time to sit with your partner to discuss your concerns and find a therapist that appears to be a good fit for the two of you. By all means, interview your therapist during the intake session. Ask questions! Do not hesitate!

Some questions to consider are:

• How does the type of treatment you offer work?
• Have you worked with a couple like us before?
• How will we assess progress?
• What should we expect?

Marriage is challenging! Considering couples therapy is challenging! For those who still feel there is room for growth, therapy provides a safe, non-judgmental space for partners to gain awareness around their relationship. Therapy also gives the couple the opportunity to explore their options before deciding to end the relationship completely. In turn, the couple has a chance to show up for one another and be seen.

Interested in learning more about couples therapy? Check out the many ways Lifeologie Counseling can help, from premarital counseling to last ditch divorce, or read more of our blogs below on some of the common issues facing couples today:

Are We Ready for Couples Counseling?

Trapped In A Mediocre Marriage? 

How Can You Heal From Infidelity?